On habits

I turn my mattress around every three months. Every week I change my sheets. I wash my towels every three days, my hair every two, my body each and every one. I have one lighter in my car, two in my bag, and one in my jacket. I carry a book and a notebook with me everywhere I go, even if I’m certain I’ll have no time to use either. 

I am a creature of habit. We all are.

What is a habit if not a pattern? What does it do except make us painfully predictable? Its virtues are order, discipline and responsibility; its vices are sloth, compromise and (sometimes) loss of self. I’m sick of them, for they relay monotony. 

I don’t believe in resolutions. They never work. They’re pretentious. They’re carelessly contrite. But if I made one this year it’d be to break my habits. All of them. Stop everything I’m doing and do it differently; again, but antithetically. Not for the sake of it, no, but to disengage from the mundane, the customary, the prosaic. 

What turns a single action into a habit? What locks us within it and forces us, with such ease, to rhythmically fade out as we blindly walk in and out of its vicious circle of haunting familiarity? It is the lack of thought, effort and ever decreasing level of difficulty. For as we grow older we do not only lose our patience and willingness to try something new, but, worst of all, expel our imagination and evict original thought as if it were a contagious disease that could kill us, or worse…awaken us. 

Habits encapsulate human existence as they trample on its essence. They amalgamate with our DNA to the point where breaking them almost seems inhuman. The choice of verb is not coincidental: to break a habit one must be willing to tear limbs, fracture bones, rupture thoughts, and sever movements that were once connected and weaved with reason. 

Our survival instincts are to blame. For they hibernate when we are not in danger. They become indifferent to the state of existence as long as they actually exist. Even if inside we’re rotting away, slithering in a pool of numbing acquiescence. 

Destroy them, why don’t you. Annihilate every crumb that falls from your swollen mouth of lies to the floor on which you crawl daily and call life. 

Break the habit.

Shatter bones.

Crack your skull.

Rebuild yourself anew. 

On muzzles

There is a hurricane swirling every thought and every emotion I’ve ever had. It has become defining. It has changed my atoms. It has warped me and made me more volatile and inflammable than I’ve ever been. I love and fear it, for it drives me towards a chaotic vacuum that includes everything I’ve ever wondered about. It is oblivious to pain, logic and regret. It breathes through me. It exhales existential fumes and encompasses concepts of ecstasy.

I have three books waiting for me. Three worlds I keep nibbling at occasionally. I open them and delve in, sometimes with an unparalleled immersion, and other times with an unfocused, almost childish, boredom and haste for what’s next. 

The thing I do best is think. It is said that by the time we die we’ve spent years of our life sleeping. By the time I die, I will have spent the rest thinking. I can’t stop. We sometimes use the word “overthinking” jokingly, to describe something in exaggeration so as to make a point. For me it is literal, and oftentimes disturbing. I stretch my mind like an elastic band, but every time it approaches its inevitable breaking point, I find a way to extend it. And so it goes.

It has, by now, encircled all aspects of my existence. It has led me to thoughts, desires, decisions and a relinquishment of dread as I’ve never before experienced, or believed I could. It has also accomplished something else. It has brought with it a companion; one that has taught me to exterminate fears and destroy doubts. He has allowed me to review and re-experience me/myself/I in the absence of all that was always expected of me.

To explore yourself you need to destroy yourself first. Annihilate original notions of all that you are and all that you think you believe. You need to undress slowly, shed layer upon layer of conviction that’s been imbedded in you over the course of your life. With every layer you burn you shed the tears that bore its significance. The lighter you become, the freer you feel, the more simply you breathe, the more frightened you grow. For you had been carrying all this burden for nothing. For all the wrong reasons, in your callow self-ignorance.

I thus began to walk differently; speak more eloquently; taste more bitterly; fuck more dactylically.

I became something else entirely. But I did not change. I evolved. I expanded. For every layer I shed, I added a piece of me I’d left behind in the belief that it was transgressive. It was not. 

I did not change. I emerged. I succumbed to myself. I unfolded what I had muzzled and I heard my voice for the very first time.  

On pendulus

These are the moments before something happens. This right now is your future, camouflaged in present. The minutes bleed into each other as the seconds dance and swirl between past and future; they are way too minute to withstand now. 

Time is effervescent in your current predicament. It doesn’t flow, it breathes; not in exhalations and inhalations but in hurricane-like movements. Out of control, seemingly.

Nothing is out of our control.

Nothing is outside of us. 

The world around us is our own construction to the extent that our subconscious impales us with thoughts of disarmament against an unwanted reality. One we cannot escape. That is what we keep repeating over and over and over, until we believe and instil in our fingerprints every lie we’ve ever told. 

The now you’re wasting away is the future you’re unbuilding. One tiny little wrecking ball has replaced the pendulum of thought inside our heads. It destroys as it oscillates. It demolishes hopes instead of walls. It uncreates what it should enlighten. 

We don’t believe in pendulums, and yet they function because of the same force that we do: gravity. We gravitate towards everything that consumes us, controls us, leaves us pendulus (hanging). We gravitate towards the elements we have erroneously believed (in the alarming absence of thought) will elevate us, only to watch ourselves fall inside the same pit. 

Yes, we are allowed to fall. Fall into infinity, until our knees bleed. But never inside the same one twice. 

We’re not supposed to revere it. We’re supposed to learn from it. 

It can’t break free.

You can. 

On reliance

I’ve learned not to rely on you. You’ve taught me that well. I’ve learned that things are almost always what they seem. I’ve learned not to believe what I hear and always listen for the silences. The things people do not say speak volumes. I’ve learned you must endure what you never had and learn to live without what you thought was yours. 

I’ve learned a lot and taught a little. I’ve learned that lessons are only valid when you teach them to another, never to yourself. I’ve learned that what we fear the most always finds its way back to us, to teach us once again. I’ve learned that what you give will not come back to you; you should not expect it to. You should not have offered in the first place. You should only give when you don’t expect.

I’ve learned not to depend on you, for you will always let me down; sometimes, even before you’ve picked me up. Sure, we all use each other. We all inhale with greed. We all feed off the crumbs that were never even intended for consumption. We’ve learned that quotes sum up our existence better. For we are weak, unaware, and compulsively ignorant. We are socially illiterate. 

We are animals pretending to belong to another species; one we invented to amuse ourselves. One we’ve been using to elevate our false assumptions of what it is to be noble, righteous, dignified, and logical. We rationalise bullshit and call it human.

I’ve learned to build a cage, and then I taught myself to breathe inside it. I haven’t locked myself in, I’ve simply kept everyone else out. I’ve kept myself safe, sane, alone, almost unscathed. They see me as a prisoner, I see them as enslaved. I’ve learned how to almost be normal. I’ve learned how to keep the Wolf inside. I’ve learned that when he comes out they don’t even dare to look. All they see is teeth. 

I’ve learned not to rely on you, something you’ve always been proud of. A pat on the back and a grin. A kind word for tokenism. A small amount of logic to sugar-coat the rest. As the coffee drips into the jug, so your words fall and are consumed; as if they mean something, as if I won’t be needing more, as if they made some kind of difference. Both were as good as their taste endured in my mouth, on my tongue, and in between these sharp, hostile teeth. 

I don’t have a pack, I go alone, for I’ve learned not to rely on you. Not to rely on anyone. 

On blindness

Imagine a thought that actually makes sense. Imagine a coherence in the things that people do. Imagine a cohesive argument and a logical pattern of behavior. You’re obviously on another planet, maybe even a different universe. Because here common sense has been replaced with an elaborate and sadly viable stupidity. 

Non-sense has become the trademark of my generation. It has defined it in ways not even writers could have imagined. Automatons that feel the burden of their mundane existence and revolt against each other while damaging themselves in the process. 

When did common sense and decency go out the window? When did it become a luxury item? Why try when you can just wing it, right? Why bother when you can simply exist without thought? Without purpose. Without a sense of identity either toward yourself or others. 

What have we become in our effort to be nothing? We’re crawling back into the womb as we become morose. We suffer alone and whine about the loss of connection, when we were the architects of this new technique. We have become animals licking the wounds we inflicted on ourselves as we tried to clumsily dance around thorny predicaments. 

We treat everyone the same, oblivious to the uniqueness of every individual. We speak the same words, do the same absurd things to anyone who comes our way and attempts to even slightly come within. We never filter. We never wonder whether a different approach can bring alternative results. That is not our concern. But what is?

Animals inside a cage we call civilization. Wanderers in a maze we have built out of all our wrong choices. Creatures of bad habit and unintelligent escapades. We destroy opportunities we created and then left to rot, slowly, bunglingly, with a staggering loss of grace. 

How will we ever face our reflection when the background is strewn with all the ‘almosts’ we ever conceived but never had the guts, the wit, and conviction to realize? Either with shame, or with our eyes closed. 

On karma

What goes around comes around. I’ve been feeling just that lately. A reversal of emotions so overwhelming it has brought me to my knees. A year and a half ago I was standing on the opposite shore, impervious to the voices around me. Now I find myself drowning on land. It’s always more terrifying when the fear stems from inside of you. It cripples you in ways you never thought possible. You begin to conduct a retrospective investigation of all that you’ve done and all you’ve made others feel. How when you were the one being neglectful, distant, and unyielding, others stood in front of you longing for something you were either unable or unwilling to give them. 

And now? How does it feel now? Hostile? Vengeful? Punitive? No, it’s none of those things. Just as I was not acting on those back then. It is life; a role switch of humane proportions. I’m wallowing inside a black pool of tears and call it heroism, when it is nothing more than self pity. So shut the fuck up, grow a pair, get out of that pit, and move the fuck on. This has been my prayer these past few months. These have been the words I’ve been trying to convince myself of while splashing around in my own self-imposed gloom. 

These past few days, though, I managed to at least stand up. My hands are dry now, my hair still dripping, chilling my shoulders, running down my feeble spine. I stand naked, waist-deep in salty waters. I cannot let my hands down; I’ve raised them above my head, and I am walking. I’m walking as if someone’s holding a gun to the back of my head, urging me to move towards an unknown direction. But then again, in here, everything is unknown. Everything is dark. No exit visible, no path either. I don’t want to look around any longer. I’ve had enough. 

The gun holder pushes the weapon against my skin, between my second and third cervical vertebrae. She is silent, but I can faintly feel her breath reach me when she exhales heavily. The particles feel familiar. We walk for what feels like days, and my surroundings remain the same, but I can feel that she knows where she’s going. I trust her. She’s led me before; just never with a bullet. 

My hair is dry, I’ve tied it in a tight samurai bun. I am dehydrated, but I do not feel thirst, or hunger. I am empty, but ready to be filled again. Open somehow. Willing. She taps the gun on my right shoulder. I understand that she’s motioning me to stop. And then she disappears. 

I turn around. I know where I am. I’ve been here before. I walk up the ladder, and reappear. 

On my event horizon

In the past few months the cogs and wheels within have been turning in strange directions. Warning lights that I never even knew existed have turned on. They were red for a second. Now they’re white. Dead. Energy signifying entropy. In the past few days they’ve gone silent. The humming has stopped. The lights simply indicate that I’m alive, nothing more. Everything else is on auto-pilot; everything else just is. And I am tired of simply being. 

I’ve tried being what others want, and I’ve attempted to deviate from the desirable to different extents. I’ve also tried being myself. I’ve got nowhere. It’s been two and a half years since that day. It feels like at least three lifetimes have elapsed since then. I’m grateful for so much, but at the same time I’m bitter, envious, enraged, disappointed, and utterly jaded. Like there’s nothing left. Like the only two choices I’m being left with are two fears: one slightly worse than the other, one less free than the other, one less lonely than the other. One less me than the other.

I’ve already made my choice, and I haven’t done so lightly, but it’s still a heavy burden. Its weight begotten by an infinite amount of words and things I have to offer but never will. They’re too hard to bear I’ve come to see. I always start with a smile, you see. Happy, excited, hopeful. A naïve kind of hope, one seen in children. Where does it always fall, however? Inside a bottomless pit of all I had to give, and all they never really wanted. 

A little black hole I was born with but always managed to control has now almost swallowed me whole. All it’s ever wanted was all of me; all I’ve ever given it was hope, that we would escape this universe that doesn’t seem to fit us. It took my word for it every time. It did so one too many times. Now it’s in control. Now I’m the passenger inside a cosmic genesis of pure dark matter. I either find another universe or I’m annihilated. It’s kind, though, my little black hole. It doesn’t sneer while it’s killing me. It doesn’t smile. It’s not relieved. It simply serves its purpose. It does what it’s supposed to do. What it was born to do. 

Maybe I’ll finally find peace in its event horizon. Maybe I’ll get to see what I really am. And then I may be able to live in peace through its frosted glass of comfortable numbness of the soul.